Grief and anxiety

Most of us have experienced something difficult at some point in our lives. Major events can trigger grief or crisis. We may also need to support someone close to us who is going through something difficult.
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Everyone reacts differently when something difficult happens. This is true both during and after an emergency. For some people, the acute reaction is physical and their bodies may not feel the way they normally do. They may have tremors, heart palpitations and difficulty staying still. Others may have the opposite reaction, freezing up.

Acknowledge feelings and thoughts

Some people who are suffering may want to withdraw and be left alone. They may feel uncomfortable being cared for by others, or they may not want to take up other people's time. Others may be constantly looking for company and may be afraid to sleep alone for a while, for example. As a family member or close friend, you can help by acknowledging their feelings and showing that you are attentive and present, without trying to change their feelings or smooth over the difficulties.

Sometimes it can be hard to deal with everyday things when you're going through something difficult. Someone you care for may need help with shopping, paying bills and keeping the house in order. Try to be as specific as possible when offering your help or support. For many people who are not feeling well, the question "Can I help you with something?" is too vague to answer. Instead, ask if you can drop off some food boxes, go for a walk together, or do something else that you know they usually enjoy. Sometimes it can feel good to do something completely different and not have to talk about their difficulties for a while.

If you are worried about someone

Sometimes it takes a long time to feel better. Experiencing a crisis or prolonged grief can lead to depression or lingering trauma. If you are worried that someone close to you might hurt themselves, or if you feel that they need more help than those around them can provide, it may be advisable to contact health services.

Sometimes those who are caring for others may need help themselves to provide good support. Such help can be sought, for example, from organisations that support family members of people in crisis or ill health.It is important not to forget your own health, even when someone else needs you. Your loved one's situation or experience may also bring up unexpected feelings in you. You may need support and relief.

Sources: 1177 Vårdguiden and the Swedish Red Cross Agency.